Hi Reader, The Bengali poet and philosopher, Rabindranath Tagore, was speaking to husbands everywhere when he said: A mind that’s all logic is like a knife that’s all blade. It makes the hand bleed that uses it. (Rabindranath Tagore) That was me. “I’ll out-reason her.” “I’ll poke holes in her argument.” “I’ll present a stronger case.” “I’ll wear her down.” What I wanted ... My wife would come to her senses ... Recognize my logic was superior to her logic ... And have warm, fuzzy feelings for...

Hi Reader, This week’s small-but-mighty email opens with J.R.R. Tolkien on being overlooked: Deeds will not be less valiant because they’re unpraised. (Aragorn, The Return of the King) Husband and fellow warrior-king, Keep doing the right thing because it’s the right thing. Keep doing the right thing because that’s the kind of man you are. Put a knife to the throat of neediness. Needing your wife to notice, thank, or praise you for your benevolent deed. Otherwise, your good deed turns rancid...

Hi Reader, Last week, one of the men in my private community (we’ll call him Dan) shared a story that will dramatically improve your marriage. Here’s what happened … Dan is chillin’ with his family when his cell phone rings. It’s their next-door neighbor. During the course of the phone call, Dan is gracious, kind, patient, and attentive. Like he’s filming a telephone etiquette video for Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. The call ends and Dan’s wife — stunned by the...