The Bengali poet and philosopher, Rabindranath Tagore, was speaking to husbands everywhere when he said:
A mind that’s all logic is like a knife that’s all blade. It makes the hand bleed that uses it. (Rabindranath Tagore)
That was me.
What I wanted ...
What I got ...
Duh, Jeff. Put Your Weapon DownHusband, get out of your head. But her tone sucks! She’s exaggerating! Her facts are wildly inaccurate! I’m not the ogre she’s making me out to be! All sound and logical rebuttals ... A Better ApproachMaybe we’re missing the point. Behind every complaint from your partner is an unspoken wish or want. And maybe it’s time to try something new ... To put logic aside. Get past her tone. It’s there. Stop Kicking Against the GoadLogically speaking ... One more time with dramatic pauses: THEY ... WON’T ... MAKE ... SENSE! Your marriage improves exponentially when you accept that. Guys, it’s OK.
Damn. I hate to think I’ve been the kind of husband you just described, but it wouldn’t be shocking. We all have blind spots and this could be one of mine. Tell me more, babe. Help me see what I’m not seeing. You deserve better. We deserve better.
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