Hi Reader, The Bengali poet and philosopher, Rabindranath Tagore, was speaking to husbands everywhere when he said: A mind thatās all logic is like a knife thatās all blade. It makes the hand bleed that uses it. (Rabindranath Tagore) That was me. āIāll out-reason her.ā āIāll poke holes in her argument.ā āIāll present a stronger case.ā āIāll wear her down.ā What I wanted ... My wife would come to her senses ... Recognize my logic was superior to her logic ... And have warm, fuzzy feelings for...
4 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
Hi Reader, This weekās small-but-mighty email opens with J.R.R. Tolkien on being overlooked: Deeds will not be less valiant because theyāre unpraised. (Aragorn, The Return of the King) Husband and fellow warrior-king, Keep doing the right thing because itās the right thing. Keep doing the right thing because thatās the kind of man you are. Put a knife to the throat of neediness. Needing your wife to notice, thank, or praise you for your benevolent deed. Otherwise, your good deed turns rancid...
5 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Hi Reader, Last week, one of the men in my private community (weāll call him Dan) shared a story that will dramatically improve your marriage. Hereās what happened ā¦ Dan is chillinā with his family when his cell phone rings. Itās their next-door neighbor. During the course of the phone call, Dan is gracious, kind, patient, and attentive. Like heās filming a telephone etiquette video for Dale Carnegieās How to Win Friends and Influence People. The call ends and Danās wife ā stunned by the...
6 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Hi Reader, When you think of your marriage, itās unlikely your mind goes to the second law of thermodynamics (or law of entropy), but it needs to. Otherwise, you risk losing the people you love most. In physics, the law of entropy says that all systems, left unattended, will run down. Unless new energy is pumped in, the organism will disintegrate. Entropy is at work in many areas other than physics. I see it, for instance, when I work with couples whose marriages are in trouble. A marriage...
8 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
Hi Reader, Half of all marriages end in divorce. Whatever. I get it. It doesnāt faze me either. But imagine if I invited you to go rock climbing or bungee jumping and said: āWeāll be fine. The death rate is only 50%.ā š¤Æ Thatās marriage. Your marriage. Itās why every husband needs to read this weekās excerpt from my online course. Although itās aimed at the guy whose wife is shut down, thereās caution and hard-won wisdom here for every man who wants to stand as Guardian and Protector over his...
9 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Hi Reader, I canāt stop watching this clip of a father and his teenage daughter. What a beast! So much of what it means to be a man is captured here ... Initiative. Hard work. Sacrifice. Compassion. Commitment. Generosity. Protection. Tenderness. Strength. Resolve. What words would you add? Watch it and let me know! (Click on the video once it starts to unmute it.) Put It to Work Watch the video Go be awesome šš¼ Your Coach,
10 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Hi Reader, Are you staring down the barrel of āhard and unfairā this week? This 90-second excerpt from my online course ā How to Win Your Wife Back ā is for you. Your Coach,
10 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read
Hi Reader, Much of my marriage pain can be traced to the covert contracts ā the unspoken agreements ā I had with my wife. A few examples: āIf I work hard and earn a decent living, youāll want to have sex with me 2-3 times a week. Window-rattling sex if I take you out for dinner.ā āIf I pitch in and do a few household chores, youāll stop getting on my case about things that donāt matter.ā āWhen I walk in the door, youāll drop whatever youāre doing, put on something sexy, and shower me with...
10 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
Hi Reader, We donāt get it. The sheer weight of it. The marriage-changing power of it. Even after writing a chapter about it for my last book, I still havenāt grasped its impact! Iām referring to how the dynamic in a home changes when husbands go first. When we step into our leadership role. When we move from passive to powerful. It touches everything. When a husband takes initiative and goes first ... He develops self-respect He grows more confident He activates his masculine core He...
11 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 2 min read
Hi Reader, When your wife is angry ā whether itās justified or unjustified ā you probably do what most of us do. You get defensive. Or you sputter and make excuses. The result? She grows more angry. Mount Vesuvius. Your home is covered in ash. A Better Way This weekās marriage wisdom comes from Alex Hormozi, billionaire founder of Gym Launch and Acquisition.com. The clip below is geared toward business owners but carries a profound lesson for every husband tired of sweeping up ash. Grab your...
12 months agoĀ ā¢Ā 1 min read